Before I finish reading this (and yes, I know it's been up for a while but only now have I found this insanely awesome stuff), I wanted to say something on what you'd said here: Perhaps he needs to be in his brother's room, near his brother's body, for it to catch, or maybe he just needs to be soft instead of hard, and open to the touch.
It's interesting, because I'm training to become a massage therapist, and am in a deep tissue class right now. We're being taught that if we use our hands softy, i.e. without tension in them, that sort of thing, we feel more clearly the muscles and the possible problems underneath than if we just dug right on in with our fingers tense and stressed.
So yeah. I get that. :)